FIRST HAND WOMAN is not just a stage play. It’s also a state of mind.

It is my pleasure to introduce you to Rebecca Tomlinson. She is going to dive right in and share her real-life journey of going from being a second hand woman to becoming a first hand woman. I hope you enjoy this inspiring read! Make sure you get all the way to the bottom to get your own call to action.

And as always…

Dream up,

Sarah Michelle Brown



First Hand Woman - Rebecca Tomlinson


I had a dream.

This particular dream started when I was at school. This dream was more of a big career ambition really. I wanted to work for one the top creative advertising agencies in London. I saw myself dressed pristinely in the latest fashion and beautiful shoes, walking to work with latte in hand and spending my day liaising confidently and openly with my wonderful clients, doing work that made them happy, with my boss smiling approvingly and proudly.

So I worked hard to achieve that dream. It seemed so appealing that I simply had to make it happen. I worked hard at school, graduated university with a top degree in marketing, and then applied to as many London advertising agencies as I could for my first post-uni job. And soon enough I was working at a great media agency. Then, I realised after a year I’d outdone the role. So I moved to a creative agency. And this job then led to another agency, and then another and then another, and another. I realised one day I had reached my dream. I was working at one of the best through-the-line creative advertising agencies in London.

But I wasn’t happy. 

I was spending my days being told what to do by a whole flock of other people. I was frequently told that the work I was doing wasn’t good enough. I was looked down on by many colleagues and found it increasingly difficult to pull passion from my boots for this. And as hard as I tried I just couldn’t feel the reward or fulfilment in doing work for someone else on someone else’s say so; being a second hand woman just was not for me. It took me six years to realise it.

Rebecca Tomlinson

I wanted to work for myself, to be my own boss, to be in charge of my own time and do work that mattered. So I handed in my resignation letter, worked out my notice period and the very next day flew to Spain to retrain as a Personal Trainer.

I would be there for six weeks and I would come back and be in charge of a brand new career, a brand new business, owned and operated solely by me.

The success was on my shoulders and mine only, and I was ok with that. In fact I was more than ok with that, I was excited by that.

I was going to design a business that helped people reach their own goals, I was going to inspire people to become the version of themselves that they aspired to be. I was going to give people motivation, confidence, strength – physical and mental. I was going to do that. Just me.

My own first hand woman doing actually what I always wanted to do, I just didn’t know it all those years ago.

I’ve been a freelance Personal Trainer now for almost five years and I have an amazingly loyal client base that continues to grow, not just in number and money, but in quality and fit. This journey has taught me so much about others, and more than anything it’s taught me a huge amount about myself and how to be an exceptional, compassionate, trustworthy human being.

First Hand Woman - Rebecca Tomlinson

Even though when I was in school I thought my dream life was in the big smoke, it didn’t matter that my true dream lay elsewhere, because the journey I’ve been on has made me the wonderful person that I am today. And the marketing degree has come in more than handy when running my own business!

Sometimes your dreams may change course, but as long as you’re always following your passion, make sure you do it with all the heart you have. What is your heart calling out to you to do?

~ Rebecca Tomlinson

Personal Trainer & Mind Coach

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Thank you so much Rebecca!

Okay, people, here is where you come in. I want you to take action now.

1. Grab a pen and paper and write down 5 categories: health, career, relationships, finances and life goals.

2. For each category, list 3 things that your heart is calling out to you to do. Great!

3. Now, write down one baby step that you can take for each of these things.

4. Here is the most important part: Commit to taking at least one of these baby steps this week.

5. Be sure to share this baby step in the comments below and let me know how this exercise worked for you. Did it get you moving? Did you find it difficult or easy?

I can’t wait to see what you have to say!

Sarah Michelle Brown